Have a Wonderful Life

Only about half of all Americans today say “they are satisfied with their jobs, down from nearly 60 percent in 1995.” (Source: The Conference Board, 2/28/2005 (http://www.conference-board.org)  So, for about half of working Americans 40% of their waking hours are spent doing something they are NOT excited about. The next time you are at work, pay attention when you casually ask, “How’s it going?” You are likely to hear comments that put the exclamation point to the statistics.

  • “Okay for a Monday.”
  • “The boss is on my case; my coworkers get on my nerves!”
  • “It’s only Tuesday and I’m already stressed out!”
  • “I’m so burned out! I need a vacation.”
  • “Thank goodness it’s Friday!”

It would seem that many people have allowed themselves to be “imprisoned” by distasteful, uninspiring jobs and willingly accept a jail term as the price for subsistence, safety, and periods of recreation.

“Before you can break out of prison, you must first realize you’re locked up.” — Unknown

Comparing job dissatisfaction to incarceration might seem a bit extreme, but it does raise some questions. If so many people are unhappy in their work, why don’t they change companies or careers? Why do they continue this schizophrenic lifestyle of slavery and freedom when there is a better way?

“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.” — Wayne Dyer

“Find a job you like and you add five days to every week.” — H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” — Confucius, Philosopher

It’s fair to conclude that many people would benefit from a career change or some other corrective action. But, change is harder for some than for others. Whether voluntary or imposed, it ranges anywhere from a minor inconvenience to a chain reaction of agonizing disruptions with appropriate emotional swings. The same brain that has the power to cause change also has the power to conjure up petrifying fear.

“Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.” — Franklin D. Roosevelt

Let’s take a look at three keys to an abundant life: Curiosity, Courage and Conscience.

Curiosity

Finding a better way requires options – finding options requires curiosity. Many folks have put on blinders, limiting their curiosity to what is straight ahead. An abundant life requires 360-degree curiosity, like a child. Children are acutely aware of the sights, sounds, and smells coming from every direction. Not satisfied with just noticing, they also take an interest and seek answers. “Mommy, why is the grass green?” “Daddy, how does the clock know what time it is?”

“The man who has no imagination has no wings.” — Muhammad Ali

My grandparents were proficient at focusing on the business portion of life AND enjoying its amenities. To them, a bird singing, a flower blooming, an interesting viewpoint, and a new idea were not to be missed. They would frequently pause from an important task to enjoy what others would consider distracting. By their example, I learned NOT to differentiate between the “distractions” and the “business of life.”   These are merely different aspects of one abundant life.

“Curiosity is one of the permanent and certain characteristics of a vigorous mind.” — Samuel Johnson

What is there to be curious about? Nature, relationships, music, technology, concepts, philosophies, and ideas! Where can one’s curiosity be aroused? Museums, zoos, aquariums, parks, carnivals, sporting events, and the theater all come to mind. How about church and mission activities, travel, hobbies, clubs & crafts, part-time jobs, books, and the backyard? With a little practice, it is possible to be curious anywhere at any time.

“Welcome all life experiences … let life touch you. Don’t let it kill you, but at least let it touch you. The next touch could open up the well springs. [Then] you’ll never lack for desire the rest of your life.” — Jim Rohn, “Challenge to Succeed” (audio recording)

“Always think outside the box and embrace opportunities that appear, wherever they might be.” — Lakshmi Mittal

There is a human tendency we attribute to adolescence, but one that really has no generational limits. It is, allowing our curiosity and interests to be influenced by what the popular culture and our peers define as “cool” or “hip” – call it “curiosity by majority rule.”

“Only dead fish swim with the stream.” — Malcolm Muggeridge

“If you don’t control your mind, someone else will.” — John Allston

Conclusion #1: Curiosity is an opportunity multiplier.

Courage

Common sense, observation, and experience provide evidence that there is a relationship between fear and courage and that courage has a role in dealing with fear, especially the fear of change in its many forms:

  • Fear of the unknown
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of hard work
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of criticism

It’s true that people sometimes set aside their fear of change when overcome by curiosity or when enticed by the possibility of benefits that change will bring. It’s also true that in different situations the most powerful benefits are no match for seemingly trivial fears. In such cases, people will opt for change only when they hold greater fear for the status quo.

We’ve been conditioned to think of courage and fear as mutually exclusive. That is, there are situations where one is either courageous or afraid. While there is a relationship between these two emotions, they are not necessarily in opposition.

“Fear and courage are brothers.” -– Proverb

“Courage is doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared.” — Edward Vernon Rickenbacker

In some cases it is more precise to say that fear is the source of courage. Consider the story of Roger Olian. On a snowy January day in 1982, a passenger jet crashed into the Potomac River in Washington, D.C. Before emergency response professionals could mobilize a rescue effort, Olian jumped into the icy waters to try and save the survivors. Not able to reach them, he remained in the river for 20 minutes, encouraging them to hang on.

To believe Olian wasn’t afraid of the bitter cold and strong current defies credibility. Hypothermia and drowning were real dangers he had to understand. It is only remotely possible that he took action as a means to achieve personal fame, fortune, or other benefit. More likely, his bravery was inspired by something bigger than concern for his personal safety. It is reasonable to guess that the fear of seeing others die while he was in a position to help caused him to act in a way that made him appear unafraid. If so, one fear caused the courage to overcome another fear.

Conclusion #2 — Courage is the catalyst for change.

Conscience

There is another type of courage, one that is inspired by personal values. Real courage has its roots in knowing one’s purpose in the world and the source of that purpose.

“Conscience is the root of all true courage; if a man would be brave let him obey his conscience.” — James Freeman Clarke

Heroes like Roger Olian often say they were compelled to act, that it was the only right choice to make. Their action was caused by something inside tugging at their hearts.

“I think we all have a little voice inside us that will guide us. It may be God, I don’t know. But I think that if we shut out all the noise and clutter from our lives and listen to that voice, it will tell us the right thing to do.” — Christopher Reeve

Heroes frequently point to the Bible as their source of purpose leading to courage and strength.

“Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” — Bible, John 15:13

“Yet it shall not be so among you; but whoever desires to become great among you, let him be your servant. And whoever desires to be first among you, let him be your slave – just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.” — Bible, Matthew 20:26-28

Whether or not Olian was motivated by these or any other Bible verses is not the point. The point is, he was nudged into action by a purpose larger than himself despite danger, fear, and great personal risk.  This purpose, which some call “conscience,” is the most powerful and dependable form of courage. Conscience causes action and ensures the right kind of action.

“Courage without conscience is a wild beast.” — Robert G. Ingersoll

“Conscience is our magnetic compass; reason our chart.” — Joseph Cook

Being aware of one’s conscience and following its guidance without perverting it for one’s own selfish desires is the root of all morality and the basis of all positive change.

“While conscience is our friend, all is at peace; however once it is offended, farewell to a tranquil mind.” — Lady Mary Wortley Montagu

“The person that loses their conscience has nothing left worth keeping.” — Izaak Walton

“Abraham Lincoln did not go to Gettysburg having commissioned a poll to find out what would sell in Gettysburg. There were no people with percentages for him, cautioning him about this group or that group or what they found in exit polls a year earlier. When will we have the courage of Lincoln?” — Robert Coles

“The inability of those in power to still the voices of their own consciences is the great force leading to change.” — Kenneth Kaunda

Conclusion #3: Conscience inspires courage and filters opportunities.

Summarizing the 3 C’s of Abundance

Living an abundant life is a continuous process of transforming opportunities into good results. The concept is simple. Curiosity increases awareness of opportunities, which generates desire. As desire increases, it becomes necessary to listen to and respect one’s conscience. Courage reaches its peak when desire and conscience are in harmony, making ready new thought and behavior patterns. In a nutshell, this is what personal growth is all about.

“It is not necessary to change. Survival is not mandatory.” — W. Edwards Deming

“Life is something like this trumpet. If you don’t put anything in it, you don’t get anything out.” — W.C. Handy

“Every man dies. Not every man lives. The only limits to the possibilities in your life tomorrow are the ‘buts’ you use today.” — Les Brown

“Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God.” — Leo Buscaglia

As you embark on a life of new abundance, it’s helpful to know you are not alone in your quest. There’s a greater power you can lean on for courage, strength, and guidance.

“They shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.” — Bible, Isaiah 40:29,31

Change, inspired by curiosity, turned to action by courage and filtered by conscience, leads to a meaningful life. Be curious, pray for courage, and obey your conscience.

God bless,

— CC

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