Is your calendar a friend or a foe? Does it make your life more or less stressful? If you use it to optimize your time, to strategically prioritize your activities and to be your accountability partner, it’s your best friend. It’s your worst enemy if its main use is reminding you how busy you are and manufacturing excuses for turning down opportunities!
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I behave as if my calendar is a large chunk of granite where I carve my upcoming activities. A rock calendar might seem friendly because its solid and stable. On the other hand, the limitations of living life according to what is carved in stone is a life of confinement and missed opportunities.
The rock calendar philosophy is a limiting belief that can spread confinement to others. How? Suppose an opportunity comes along that conflicts with something you’ve already blocked out on your calendar. You know how much work it takes to change calendar entries carved in stone. At this point it’s simply too late to change the calendar. Then factor in the human tendency to project one’s own feelings onto others (i.e. I assume others will feel the same as me.) “If it’s too late for me, it’s too late for everyone else. I won’t bother them because I care about them.” You just made a decision for someone else and took away their right to choose without asking simple questions such as: “Are you interested? Is this important to you?” The truth is, you are probably justifying your decision based on your limiting belief, your assumption and your paradigm. How self-centered is that?
Why do human beings make assumptions about what others think, feel and need? God knows everything, but I don’t and you don’t. So why do we behave as if we are the all-knowing God? I guess it’s easier to assume rather than ask.
Here’s my conclusion: A stone calendar is NOT your friend. Your true friend is that sense of loss that challenges your limiting beliefs and helps you discover and adopt a better paradigm, such as knowing why our decisions don’t have to be limited by a rigid calendar?
I’ll leave you with the following question and three principles:
“What are the long-term consequences of living life
according to a stone calendar?“
Three Principles That Make Your Calendar Work Better:
- See your calendar as flexible, not rigid.
- Learn the difference between urgent and important. Then assign high priority status to only those which are both urgent and important.
- Schedule immediately that which seems most important. If it turns out to be less important, reschedule as necessary to make room for something you know IS important.
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