“You can make more friends in two months
– Dale Carnegie
Urgency, a force we feel, but cannot see, surrounds us at home, at work and at play. Like a trusted friend, Urgency calls us to action. When we respond, our friend becomes our partner as evidenced in the phrase, “act with Urgency.”
Urgency’s nickname is ASAP. Unfortunately, not everyone likes ASAP. So, they taunt Urgency with their own nickname, WIGART, which is short for “When I get a round tuit.” I guess they confuse Urgency with their fair-weather friend, Procrastination. The truth is, we would all be more productive if we spent more time hanging with ASAP, our true friend, and stopped seeing WIGART altogether.
“You don’t have to see the top of the staircase to take the first step.”
– Martin Luther King, Jr.
“The future is literally in our hands to mold as we like.
But we cannot wait until tomorrow. Tomorrow is now.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
“In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing,
the next best thing is the wrong thing
and the worst thing you can do is nothing.“
– Theodore Roosevelt
“There are risks and costs to action.
But they are far less than the long-range risks of comfortable inaction.”
– John F. Kennedy
“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment
before starting to improve the world.”
– Anne Frank
“I’d rather attempt to do something great and fail
than to attempt to do nothing and succeed.”
– Robert Schuller
“A wise person does at once, what a fool does at last.
Both do the same thing; only at different times.”
– Baltasar Gracian
“He who hesitates is poor.”
– Mel Brooks
“You are younger today than you will ever be again.
Make use of it for the sake of tomorrow.”
– Norman Cousins
“You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.”
– Henry Ford
“The day will happen whether or not you get up.”
– John Ciardi
“A year from now you will wish you had started today.”
– Karen Lamb
Think of urgency this way. If you believed there was buried treasure in your backyard, how much time would pass before you started digging? What treasures are buried in your backyard? Why not just grab a shovel and find out? Is there really any good reasons to wait?
Every so often something happens causing me to reflect on “loyalty.” What is it? Where do my own loyalties lie? What principles define my loyalties? How strong and deep do these loyalties go? If having to choose among conflicting loyalties, how should I decide — how would I decide? Are my loyalties more toward others than loyalty toward myself? Each one of these is a loaded question.
Personal reflection recently led me to a few conclusions and more questions. Here’s what I’ve decided so far:
- Everyone has multiple loyalties. Examples include loyalty to: an idea, a principle, a friend, a hero, a teacher or student, a cause, an organization, a team, an object, a pet, spouse, family, self, and God. Hopefully God is not last.)
- Our loyalties reflect our character.
- As we change, some loyalties change.
- Some loyalties are stronger than others.
- Emotional loyalties are much stronger than loyalties based on logic.
- People betray their own loyalties.
Here’s what others have decided:
“When you’re part of a team, you stand up for your teammates. Your loyalty is to them. You protect them through good and bad, because they’d do the same for you.” — Yogi Berra
“A boy can learn a lot from a dog: obedience, loyalty, and the importance of turning around three times before lying down.” — Robert Benchley
“Men are more often bribed by their loyalties and ambitions than by money.” — Robert Jackson
“Loyalty to petrified opinion never yet broke a chain or freed a human soul.” — Mark Twain, inscription beneath his bust in the Hall of Fame
“So much of what is best in us is bound up in our love of family, that it remains the measure of our stability because it measures our sense of loyalty. All other pacts of love or fear derive from it and are modeled upon it.” — Haniel Long
“UD, we hear you calling,
Fidelity’s the test,
Your sons and daughters answer from
North, South, East and West,
With measured tread advancing,
Our emblem full in view,
We sound your praise and pledge
Our loyalty to the Red and Blue.”
— Excerpt from “The University of Dayton Anthem”
“No more important duty can be urged upon those who are entering the great theater of life than simple loyalty to their best convictions.” — Edwin Hubbel Chapin
“The secret of a good life is to have the right loyalties and hold them in the right scale of values.” — Norman Thomas
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Relationships are the fabric of life, each with a unique color, style, and texture. We have first-hand relationships with our spouse, family, friends, business colleagues, neighbors, church family, and casual acquaintances. Also, the concept known as “six degrees of separation” implies that we have transient, distant, indirect, and/or transcendent relationships with virtually everyone in the world. We are all intricately connected to one another.
Friendships are the most valuable of all relationships. As I sorted through hundreds of quotes about friends, I was surprised to notice that recent quotes tended to be more cynical than older ones. I suspect this reflects our culture. So, rather than turn this into a “Dr. Phil session” I’ve simply avoided the issue by selecting quotes that define friendship in a positive way, identify the benefits of friendship, and that speak of how to choose, value and respect our friends.
Who Are Our Friends?
“My friends are my estate.” — Emily Dickinson
“The ornament of a house is the friends who frequent it.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Go through your phone book, call people and ask them to drive you to the airport. The ones who will drive you are your true friends. The rest aren’t bad people; they’re just acquaintances.” — Jay Leno
“When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.” — Japanese Proverb
Finding a Friend
“There was a definite process by which one made people into friends, and it involved talking to them and listening to them for hours at a time.” — Rebecca West (1892 – 1983)
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” — Dale Carnegie
“A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, and that which we take the least care of all to acquire.” — Francois de La Rochefoucauld (1613 – 1680)
“Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.” — Anonymous
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” — C.S. Lewis
The Value of Friendship
“Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.” — Aristotle (384 BC – 322 BC)
“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
“Friendship makes prosperity more shining and lessens adversity by dividing and sharing it.” — Cicero (106 BC – 43 BC)
Be a Friend
“When a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy him by asking if there is any thing you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it.” — Edgar Watson Howe (1853 – 1937)
“Reprove thy friend privately; commend him publicly.” — Solon (638 BC – 559 BC)
“Consult your friend on all things, especially on those which respect yourself. His counsel may then be useful where your own self-love might impair your judgment.” — Seneca (5 BC – 65 AD)
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” — Bible, John 15:13
Let a friend know you care. Call or write TODAY!
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