Just Because…

Gravity didn’t disappear just because man wanted to fly and it won’t disappear just because your 5-year old wants to dunk the basketball.

What’s right and what’s wrong does not change just because some people cheat and don’t get caught.

Manners don’t become unnecessary just because some people are impolite.

Wrong doesn’t become right just because some movies glorify crooks, killers and liars.

Just because technology gives us more choices doesn’t mean we’ll be happier.

The laws of leadership, the ones that once built great leaders, have not changed just because bad leaders manipulate and bully their way to power.

Just because collective knowledge grows exponentially doesn’t automatically make any person today one bit smarter than the ancient Greeks, Romans or Hebrews.  We all start at zero and grow according to our intellectual capacity and effort (and we know not everyone puts in the effort.)

Just because we have more opportunities than ever before doesn’t mean they are all worthy of our time, money or reputation.

Reality doesn’t change just because we give something a new name.

The Ten Commandments don’t become unconstitutional just because a few people are offended and 9 people in robes decided to reinterpret our Constitution.

People of Biblical times are not to be classified as stupid just because they didn’t have today’s technology.

One is not a bigot simply because he or she has different opinions about how to solve social issues.

The Bible is not to be considered useless just because it was written thousands of years ago.

What was once right does not become wrong just because pop culture says so.

However, the world does change for the worse just because too many people have become intellectually lazy, emotionally numb, physically sick and spiritually apathetic.

The physical and spiritual laws of the universe do not change just because.

Just because some change is imaginary and other change is real, but morally wrong, does not mean that all change is wrong.   The right change is right and the wrong change is wrong.  Can you tell the difference?

Sometimes right and sometimes wrong – signing off,

— CC

Are You a Pathfinder?

A pathfinder is “one who discovers a way.”  When pathfinders go the way of their discovered path and share it with others, they are also behaving as leaders.

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.”
— John C. Maxwell

It matters little, after the fact, how one discovered and claimed the pathway.  Whether it was by reading, observation, listening, experience or by chance, the important part is that they discovered it and are using it, growing it and sharing it with others.  That’s how leaders are born and how they live meaningful lives.  That being said, why leave it up to chance?

CrossAbilities! is on a pathfinding mission that focuses on three priorities:

  • Know the Way:  We build a community of pathfinders who together learn the principles of an honorable, purposeful life.
  • Go the Way: We work hard to master and apply what we learn, holding each other accountable to our goals.
  • Show the Way:  We seek others who desire growth and success and walk with them down the pathway of significance.

If you are a pathfinder, congratulations and thank-you!  The world needs you.  If you are not, you have three choices.  1) You can join a pathfinder community like ours.  2) You can start your independent quest for meaning and significance.  3) You can continue wandering, leaving your legacy to chance and never discovering your true potential.  The choice is up to you.  Choose wisely!

The Saddest Excuse for Mediocrity

One of my childhood friends liked to say this…

The more you study, the more you learn. The more you learn, the more you know. The more you know the more you forget.  The more you forget the less you know, so why study?

He made me laugh!  I assumed that was his intent and not his philosophy because he was a good student and a good friend.  Today it’s not so funny.  I see people living their lives this way, in fear of the responsibilities that come from high achievement, excellence, mastery and proficiency.  I imagine the following thought process spinning around in their minds…

The more I prepare, the better I become. The better I become, the more I can achieve.  The more I achieve, the more people expect of me.  The more people expect, the busier I get.  The busier I get, the more stressful my life gets.  The more stressful my life gets, the less I will achieve.  The less I achieve, the worse I become, so why prepare?

In other words, this imagined sequence reflects “fear of success.”  Some will miss the irony and significance of their rationalization.  Others will just laugh it off, not admitting their fear.  Still others will simply choose to be in denial.

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The truth is simple.  This preparation formula demonstrates the reality of fear and why people settle for mediocrity.  It’s real, it’s unnecessary and it’s NOT FUNNY!  Since it’s a serious matter, we should be engaged in stomping out mediocrity by inspiring parents, teachers and others to leverage their influence to help others dispose of limiting beliefs by replacing them with empowering beliefs.  Most importantly we should be helping the young people closest to us become who they were meant to be.  That responsibility gets me up and going every day.  What about you?  Who do you know?

P.S. There is undoubtedly someone close to you that is unprepared for the future. If their developmental gaps include productivity, professionalism, relationships or leadership, then perhaps they would benefit from LEAP, my on-line course.  Learn all about it at: www.MoEaH.org.

Goals Create Motivation – Action Creates Progress

The small things we focus on can deliver the big things we dream about. This is the very point University of Dayton Head Basketball Coach Archie Miller made during an interview with Mike Hartsock of WHIO TV.

Hartsock: Do you still take your guys back to last year? “O.K. guys, remember what we had last year, what we went through last year?”

Coach Miller:  I think more so the path that we took, how we handled the path, not so much where the end result got, but… how much better did we get from February 22nd to March 15th… It’s finding a way to get your team to stay in the moment, of talking about, “Hey look! This was the path we were on. This is where we were a year ago men…think about how far we went; we can do it, too!”… Not so much about, “Do you want to do this again, do you want to do that again? Remember the little things that got us there.

– Archie Miller, Head Coach of Dayton Flyers Men’s Basketball Program; Broadcast, 3/1/2015

People are motivated by big dreams and goals if they believe the goals are possible for them. That’s a good start. But having inspiring goals is not enough. Goals are the measurable parts of a dream. Dreams become real from the execution of the right, moment-by-moment actions. Too much attention on the dream can distract us from doing the actions that produce the outcomes we expect.

Successful people know how to leverage the motivation of a dream to create the actions that get results. People who feel the high of an inspiring dream and consistently fail to take the necessary actions are adrenalin junkies.  From this interview, I conclude that Coach Miller understands this principle and leads his team accordingly.

 “The small things we focus on
can deliver the big things we dream about.”
— Clancy Cross

Good luck to the Dayton Flyers, Men and Women, in their upcoming tournaments!